I'd like the memory of me to be a happy one;
I'd like to leave an afterglow of smiles when day is done.
I'd like to leave an echo whispering softly down the ways,
Of happy times and laughing times and bright and sunny days.
I'd like the tears of those who grieve to dry before the sun, 
Of happy memories that I leave behind when day is done.

"Remember me with smiles and laughter as that is how I will remember you".


Brooke's Graduation
Ryan, Brooke, Ally




Balloons at Ryan's Funeral

Ryan and Friends on New Years Eve

An Easter Message From Ryan

The man's slumbering mind opened it's window to spacious green fields and blue sky.  An older boy with reddish blond hair trotted over to meet him.  His eyes were bright and cheerful, and his body moved with grace and confidence.  There was an aura of peace about the lad that drew the man into a spiritual union with him.  The normal stages of human emotion that two people pass through to reach total intimacy did not apply.  The boy's simple and engaging smile bridged all of that.

Although they had only met once or twice in this world, the conversation startled without formal introductions being offered.  The man knew the boy, and knew there was significance to his visit.

The boy looked around.  "I have many friends up here.  We play soccer and hangout together." The boy's smile faded. "My dad needs to know how happy I am.  He needs to know there is no reason for him to worry.  I am fine."

"Why me?" the man asked.  "I am no one special to your family.  I know your father only through business.  I don't know him well enough to tell about your new life."

"I chose you because I think he will listen to you.  I think you can get through to hm.  Tell him I am happy, and he is not to be sad anymore."

The conversation went on untl the man finally awoke from his sleep.  His visit, with the boy called Ryan, was real.  His heart flooded with emotions and his eyes with tears.  Although there was no denying what had just happened, he was certain he would never be able to talk to the boy's father about their visit.  To do so would only cause great pain for the father, and if nothing else, the man would be looked upon as a troublesome loon.

The man cleared his head and went back to sleep.  Within minutes, Ryan returned.  Again, he implored the man to talk to his father. "I am happy. My father needs to know this.  You must promise me you will tell him."  The man agreed.  With that, Ryan gave him a smile and returned to his soccer game.

After much hesitation, the day finally came when the man realized he would never be able to dampen the feeling that compelled him to speak to the boy's father.  A solid promise had been made, and it would be kept.

He struggled to find a way to convey Ryan's message to the father.  Men of his generation did not go around talking about things like feelings and dreams.  He was a tool man by trade.  He worked with metal. It was solid and true.  He knew you need not doubt that which you can hold between your hands, not like the intangibles of this world.   Matters such as the heart, mind and soul, he left to the ones who are, by nature, more sensibile  - priests, philosophers, teachers, psychologists.

With phone in hand, and safely separated by fiber optics, copper wires, routers and switches, he started. "I don't want you to think I'm odd or crazy, but I went to bed the other night and...," he relayed the story as it has occurred.  the entire time he fought to control the shakiness in his voice and the tears in his eyes. He spoke of things he had no reason to know, like Ryan's love of soccer and the father's heart breaking struggle to deal with his son's absense   Several times he expressed his uncertainty about relaying these facts to the father.  He knew he might sound crazy, but was inexplicably drawn to speak openly of his experience.

Ryans's father listened.  He expressed no doubt in the man's words. It didn't surprise him that Ryan was playing soccer or that he was happy.  It only bothered him that his own sadness was causing so much pain for his son.  Finally, the father said, "The next time you see Ryan, tell him we miss him."

The man said he would.

Then,  just as they were saying good bye, the father said, "Oh, by the way, the night you visited with Ryan... it was ten months to the day that he had left us."

 



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